How To Have Your Cake And Eat It Too

A numbers of years ago, back in 2005 to be exact, I picked up a book that was one of those things that set off a chain of events that changed the course of my life.

It was Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker.

The book is great, and if you want more money in your life, than you oughtta read it for sure. It’s chock full of time-tested tips for achieving financial success, creating abundance in your life and mastering the “inner game” of wealth. Something we ALL could get better at.

But it wasn’t just the book, it was what happened AFTER I read it that led to major shifts in my life. And one very specific idea, or as Harv calls them “wealth files”, that has been a major guiding principle in my life.

I’ll tell you about it in a sec, but first, let me tell you what happened after I read the book.

In the book, Harv HEAVILY promotes the Millionaire Mind Intensive (MMI). It’s a 3 day financial transformation event, which I found to be very interesting.

When I picked the book, I’ve been involved in direct sales for 10 years, so I read every self-help, personal development book under sun by that time. Maybe not EVERY one, but it was a lot. And being in the state of always working on myself, and because I really liked the book, I decided to go to the MMI.

The closest one was in Toronto, a mere 4 hour drive for me, so my wife and I went together.

I’m not going to get into the whole thing, although it was a really cool experience. But I do want to tell you about one very specific topic from a session on a Friday afternoon, which was the first day. This is almost 11 years ago, but I remember it vividly.

The trainer (it wasn’t Harv) spoke about the idea of Multiple Streams of Income, and the fact that there are so many ways to make money, it’s mind boggling that some people still struggle and can’t figure out how to earn more.

You see, at that point, I’ve been laser-focused on the business I was in, a direct sales financial services business, which I was working hard at for over a decade. TEN straight years, non-stop. And, up until that time, I pretty much had my mind closed to any and all other opportunities. Foolishly, I may add.

Ironically though, about a week BEFORE the event, I found a little booklet in my mailbox about starting an online business.

I ordered the package advertised in the booklet, and was still waiting for it to arrive. EAGERLY waiting for it, because I was kinda getting a little tired of the financial services business. It was wearing me out, and I was ‘secretly’ looking for a way out. NO ONE (not even my wife) knew this.

So, we’re sitting in Toronto at the MMI, and the guy brings out a whiteboard, and starts writing with a marker all the different ways you can make money. Some of which included e-commerce and internet marketing.

I’m sitting there, thinking… “Is this a sign? I just ordered this product about doing something online.” There was no other mention of internet marketing for the rest of the weekend, but the idea that I was toying with already, was firmly cemented in my mind.

That month, I made my first buck online and a few months later was generating several thousand PER MONTH. In fact, exactly one year later I had my first $8,000 month.

Now, let me tell you about the principle or “wealth file” that I discovered in the book, which I really embraced, and followed for years now.

The way Harv put it in the book is…

Rich People Think “Both.” Poor People Think “Either/Or.”


Most people think that you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

This comes from scarcity mentality with a very LIMITED perspective on life.

For example…

You can’t have a successful career and spend lots of time with your family.

You can’t save a lot of money and still have enough to enjoy the things you want now.

You can’t have lots of time off to do what you like, and make a lot of money at the same time.


All this, and there are many other examples of this kind of thinking, comes from limited outlook on life. Which says… “If I have this, then I must give up that.”

And while I agree, there’s always going to be some “give and take”, but a question to ask yourself to get out of this ‘limited thinking’ is…

How can I have BOTH?

This immediately opens the doors of opportunities and possibilities wide open for you. Your mind starts thinking HOW I CAN instead of WHY I CAN’T.

We just came back from a 6 week vacation in Florida. Yes 6 WEEKS. For most people (in United States), even those with some money, that’s unthinkable. They can’t wrap their head around the idea of going on vacation for 6 weeks.

During our 6 week stay in the oceanfront condo in northern Miami, I was still able to tend to my copywriting commitment on a daily basis. Run a high six-figure e-commerce business. Run another online business. And be on the beach every morning, swimming in the ocean with my 3 kids.


By thinking… “How can I have both?”

Instead of thinking (like most people do) – you can’t make a lot of money and have time to enjoy with your family… I think… how can I can?

How can I create multiple streams of income, so that I can free up more time and do the things I really want to do?

How can I take multiple vacations and trips a year, and not miss a beat in my business?

Yes, it takes some creativity and certain skills, which you can acquire with a little elbow grease, some skull sweat and lots of persistence.

Same goes for other areas of your life.

Wanna be fit and healthy, without having to starve yourself?

YOU CAN! You can be fit and healthy, and enjoy foods. You just need to arm yourself with the right information about health and fitness, develop a plan of action and THIS IS THE KEY… have the discipline to stick to that plan.

When I was in Miami, I had some conversations with a guy who was staying with his wife in the same condos were were at. They’re in their 60’s, seem to be doing ok, but one thing he said which rubs me the wrong way is… “I learned that in life, you don’t want to bite off too much of the cake. If you do, you’ll choke.”

In other words, aim to do well, but don’t aim too high.

I simply nodded my head, and thought to myself – I’ll stick to my philosophy that I can have a cake ANY size… and can eat it too!

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Vitaly Grinblat has over 20 years of experience in sales, marketing and advertising. Including running his own financial services agency for over 10 years. Since 2005, he has created a number of information products online, as well consulted with and designed advertising campaigns for private clients, generating over $10,000,000 in sales. Currently Vitaly is involved in a number of businesses and projects including creating marketing campaigns for a large publication company, running an e-commerce business, a nutraceutical company and Success Thread.


  1. “I can have a cake ANY size… and can eat it too!”…….priceless….I like the way you think….I haven’t commented on your stuff in a while but you’re still on point….


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